In response to the anonymous comment post to my journal yesterday, allow me to show you what friendships have cost me and ask you a question. But first off, the friends who claimed that I wasn’t a friend are as follows:
Friend number one was someone who beat the side of my face in and repeatedly punched me in the stomach outside of an Applebees restaurant filled with people because I asked for their help, but I wouldn't sleep with them as payment in full ... I'm suppose to question how I treat friends?
Second friend, he forcefully tried to put the move on me in my own home without my consent as payment in full for some free legal advice given and when asked to leave I had to have the police escort them off the premises ... I'm suppose to question how I treat friends?
Third friend, he would constantly lie to me about my buddy and his doings, and would publicly humiliate me in front of my other friends because I was with him ... I'm suppose to question how I treat friends?
Fourth friend, I give him shelter because he was having "boyfriend" troubles and steals $300 from my wallet. Oh there’s a few others who turned against me because I wouldn't do for them as they thought I should … like lend money, lie for them, or not do for them because they expected I should, etc. ... I'm suppose to think about how I treat friends? Wrong! ... Very wrong!
The above mentioned, they all were my friends. With each I was close, trusted them, cared about them, helped them, cried and laughed with them, worked with them. What did it get me? Certainly not a friendship that I wanted to be a part of!
Know what? I could go on, but bringing these memories back is painful and I don’t want to go there any further. Nonetheless, whoever you are, each of those I either mentioned or not used me emotionally and hurt me physically ... all in the name of friendship. These are the ones who accused me of not being their friend. These individuals are the very ones who have caused me to doubt people and their intentions when it comes to “friendships”. Therefore, I don’t know where you get off questioning my friendship. I will be someone’s friend, but what irks me … friendships, they all seem to come with a price. It seems that friendships are based on expectations and/or what they can get out of you. And when I don’t live up to them, give into them, bow down to them, or respect them ... I’m the bad guy. Yeah, ok!
Like I have stated, I give without expecting anything in return and I expect the same. So if this makes me the bad guy … so be it! The only person I have hurt here is my buddy ... yeah, it is here alone that I need to question my friendship. As for the rest, I have no questions cause I am and can be a damn good friend.
As for your concern about me and my buddy, I appreciate it.
As for your concern about me and my buddy, I appreciate it.
YEAH HERE IN MB FRIENDSHIPS COME WITH A PRICE. THERE ARE THOSE WHO WILL USE AND ABUSE YOU JUST TO GET WHAT THEY WANT AND WHEN FINISHED WITH YOU KICK YOU TO THE CURB. ITS REALLY SAD AND PHILIP HAS BEEN KICKED TO THE CURB ONE TO MANY TIMES.
ReplyDeleteANOTHER THING :-) I REALLY HOPE PHILIP AND HIS BUDDY CAN WORK THROUGH THEIR ISSUES. PHILIP HAS ALWAYS SPOKEN KINDLY AND HIGHLY ABOUT HIS BUDDY. IT WOULD BE SAD TO SEE THEIR FRIENDSHIP END CAUSE I KNOW IT HAS BEEN A BLESSING TO PHILIP IN SO MANY WAYS. IT EVEN CHANGED PHILIP TO BE A BETTER PERSON. SO I HOPE WHAT HAPPENED WILL NOT INTERRUPT THE POSITIVENESS THE RELATIONSHIP HAS GIVEN TO PHILIP. EVERY ONE PHILIP IS A DAMN GOOD MAN.
ReplyDeleteYes, buddy you did wrong. We all do wrong. Whatever it is, you can overcome it by opening up to what happened, look at it honestly and learn, move on, and never repeat.
ReplyDeleteTo your buddy, as i can also see, think you owe Philip an explanation. Yes, he took his emotions out on you, you were deeply wounded by his actions. However, if you are truly a friend or want to be, then you need to open up to him, it seems to me anyway. Philip has a lot to offer and give. Yes, at times he is a firecracker, even an ass. But know it's not from his heart. That is refined and pure. So heal each other and grow.
Good luck to all!
Ken-a 30 year friendship
Philip's had some really bad experiences with people whom he has befriended. He has been hurt beyond imagination simply because he stood his ground, followed his convictions and defended his respect for his friendship with his buddy while being torn down and shit on. You have no idea what this man has gone through! There are few individuals like Philip - who at times may be a bit rough and harsh-but I for one would rather have an individual like Philip in my life who tells it like it is, right or wrong, than someone who is a user and abuser. I respect Philip with all my heart and am proud of how he has continually tired to overcome the deep seeded hurts he's endured over the last couple of years. My hats off to you Philip.
ReplyDeleteDont mess with my philip!
ReplyDeletehey Steve make up your mind which name you are going to go by. you are such an air head-lol
ReplyDeleteWTF? I work with Philip and the one thing about him,,he takes no shit from anyone. I respect this guy.
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