The term “friends with benefits” is nothing more than a relationship based strictly on sex. In all honesty, friendship is not a part of the equation. Sure puts a whole new spin on the word “prostitute”. The only difference here is that you are not getting paid for your services. Nonetheless, I assure you, being someone’s friend based strictly on sex ain’t all that, cause after a while it can sure wear thin. Plus, once they wear you out you’re history and the fool moves on to the next.
Yesterday, I was pretty harsh about this subject simply because I’ve been involved in two such a relationships, and for me the first encounter was as unsavory as it came . I played Russian Roulette with my health because there was no doubt in my mind that the individual was not only sleeping with me, but with others. Infatuation combined with loneliness can be a dangerous mix! Anyway, once I found out that I was number whatever, I quickly ended the relationship and headed to the doctor’s office to get tested. Thankfully, I was spared from a life threatening disease … HIV/AIDS.
What was so distasteful about the relationship was the lack of respect mixed with a whole lot of loneliness and emptiness. Also, added to the mix of feeling worthless was all the disseat that came along with it, thus the idea of being someone’s “friend with benefits” causes me to shiver at the thought that any good can come out of it. Thus, generally speaking, I believe this type of relationship is emotionally unhealthy and physically a health risk.
Now, I have to admit that this doesn’t mean a lasting friendship, including a lasting relationship, cannot develop from being a “friend with benefits”. On the flipside of my distasteful encounter my current relationship did begin with being a friend with benefits. The difference here is as night and day as it can be … this time around I came from being just a benefit to being a friend, and subsequently this relationship has lasted for four years. Therefore, yes, good can come out of bad. And in my case, I couldn’t ask for no better of an outcome as the commitment I now have. It was love at first sight and I am truly blessed!
What I’m trying to pass on to you is this; be careful! Choose your partners wisely! Life’s to short to be used by anyone, specially for sex. You are much better than this! The time it took you to be used you could have found happiness and fulfillment if you had taken the time to seek out positive individuals for your life. Yes, you may encounter unsuitable characters along the way. But the quicker you weed them out the faster you’ll find a rewarding friendship, as well as a long lasting relationship that just might be the encounter of a life-time. I did! My first lasted for twenty-seven years. My second, now four years. So, don’t sell yourself out for some momentary fix that is shallow and empty that in the long run will leave you broken. Aim higher and I believe that you will find that one special someone that will rock your world forever and a day. I’m just saying! ;-)
Yesterday, I was pretty harsh about this subject simply because I’ve been involved in two such a relationships, and for me the first encounter was as unsavory as it came . I played Russian Roulette with my health because there was no doubt in my mind that the individual was not only sleeping with me, but with others. Infatuation combined with loneliness can be a dangerous mix! Anyway, once I found out that I was number whatever, I quickly ended the relationship and headed to the doctor’s office to get tested. Thankfully, I was spared from a life threatening disease … HIV/AIDS.
What was so distasteful about the relationship was the lack of respect mixed with a whole lot of loneliness and emptiness. Also, added to the mix of feeling worthless was all the disseat that came along with it, thus the idea of being someone’s “friend with benefits” causes me to shiver at the thought that any good can come out of it. Thus, generally speaking, I believe this type of relationship is emotionally unhealthy and physically a health risk.
Now, I have to admit that this doesn’t mean a lasting friendship, including a lasting relationship, cannot develop from being a “friend with benefits”. On the flipside of my distasteful encounter my current relationship did begin with being a friend with benefits. The difference here is as night and day as it can be … this time around I came from being just a benefit to being a friend, and subsequently this relationship has lasted for four years. Therefore, yes, good can come out of bad. And in my case, I couldn’t ask for no better of an outcome as the commitment I now have. It was love at first sight and I am truly blessed!
What I’m trying to pass on to you is this; be careful! Choose your partners wisely! Life’s to short to be used by anyone, specially for sex. You are much better than this! The time it took you to be used you could have found happiness and fulfillment if you had taken the time to seek out positive individuals for your life. Yes, you may encounter unsuitable characters along the way. But the quicker you weed them out the faster you’ll find a rewarding friendship, as well as a long lasting relationship that just might be the encounter of a life-time. I did! My first lasted for twenty-seven years. My second, now four years. So, don’t sell yourself out for some momentary fix that is shallow and empty that in the long run will leave you broken. Aim higher and I believe that you will find that one special someone that will rock your world forever and a day. I’m just saying! ;-)
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