Scenario:
Two men, one in his early twenties, one in his mid forties. The older considers the younger to be like his own son. Occasionally, they sleep together. One is straight. The other, bisexual . When inquiring about the relationship as to whether it’s platonic or not, the reply from the older is less than friendly ... as though to insinuate that I shouldn’t meddle. Nevertheless, the response given; "there’s nothing but a close friendship between us. He's like a son to me. Anything beyond that simply doesn’t exist. And that's all I'm going to say about this!"
My Thoughts:
I choose to believe that the relationship is strictly platonic. As far as I know, I’ve never been given a reason to doubt his words … he has always been semi-open and truthful with me. On the other hand, due to the nature of the response I do question … what “straight” guy would sleep in the same bed with another man? I may be wrong, even naive, but most fathers or father figures don’t sleep with their sons, even close friends. Yes, they socially interact, but when it comes to sharing the same bed, most wouldn’t unless there’s an attraction beyond their social realm.
Honestly, I find the whole situation a bit mentally fragmented.
Question:
Am I reading more into this relationship than what I should? Perhaps! Nonetheless, it causes me to wonder ... cause honestly; straight men don't sleep together. It's just not in their DNA! And I'm not saying this because I believe that all men are "gay". But if life isn't showing me but one thing, in today's world, I'm finding "friendships" come in different layers. The stereo-typical meaning of Friendship hardly exists. What can I say ... call me old fashioned. :-}
What are your thoughts?
Updated 12/06/09
Two men, one in his early twenties, one in his mid forties. The older considers the younger to be like his own son. Occasionally, they sleep together. One is straight. The other, bisexual . When inquiring about the relationship as to whether it’s platonic or not, the reply from the older is less than friendly ... as though to insinuate that I shouldn’t meddle. Nevertheless, the response given; "there’s nothing but a close friendship between us. He's like a son to me. Anything beyond that simply doesn’t exist. And that's all I'm going to say about this!"
My Thoughts:
I choose to believe that the relationship is strictly platonic. As far as I know, I’ve never been given a reason to doubt his words … he has always been semi-open and truthful with me. On the other hand, due to the nature of the response I do question … what “straight” guy would sleep in the same bed with another man? I may be wrong, even naive, but most fathers or father figures don’t sleep with their sons, even close friends. Yes, they socially interact, but when it comes to sharing the same bed, most wouldn’t unless there’s an attraction beyond their social realm.
Honestly, I find the whole situation a bit mentally fragmented.
Question:
Am I reading more into this relationship than what I should? Perhaps! Nonetheless, it causes me to wonder ... cause honestly; straight men don't sleep together. It's just not in their DNA! And I'm not saying this because I believe that all men are "gay". But if life isn't showing me but one thing, in today's world, I'm finding "friendships" come in different layers. The stereo-typical meaning of Friendship hardly exists. What can I say ... call me old fashioned. :-}
What are your thoughts?
Updated 12/06/09
Yes, with how you describe the situation it does appear to be more than a platonic relationship, specially since the person seems unwilling to openly discuss it with you. Might I suggest that you revisit the conversation and lay your thoughts out as to why you feel "fragmented" over the issue. Do not allow doubt to fester. It's a breeding ground for more questions and eventual distrust. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteGet a clue!!!! Father & son my ass. They're sleeping together.
ReplyDeleteas for me, i believe that the lines have become so blurred that you can hardly tell the difference between what is real and what is not. i find it difficult to know where you really stand in some peoples life and it really makes me feel uncomfortable.
ReplyDeleteMy opinion? If you're not involved why do you care?
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