Response To May 18th Comment
Yes, as far as I’m concerned, I do have and am in an ongoing relationship! But recently a statement was made that got me thinking and quite honestly I’m not sure. At one time I felt confident. Today, well, lets just say I have reservations.
Its been almost three years we entered each others lives … two of which have been serious. But a while back it was requested that our relationship “return to the way it used to be”. Well, it certainly feels as though it has. As a matter of fact, it feels like it has returned to almost post-relationship. Needless to say, a little unsettling!
Don't get me wrong, I'm still very committed to the relationship? You bet ya! I believe in my buddy. He has proven his worth in ways I never expected or imagined. He has been there when others haven’t. He’s my Buddy, my Friend, my Brother. Therefore, yes!, I am happy he’s a part of my life and I his.
In light of all I’ve stated in my May 18th post, yes, I sometimes feel that my life is empty, thus the feelings of loneliness which really isn't all that uncommon in any relationship. Nonetheless, it's all good! I'm pretty certain that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be and the man in my life is exactly who he's supposed to be. God places people in our lives for a reason. ... my Buddy has been a Godsend. Therefore, yes, I’m staying put because he means that much to me. I love the man pure and simple, and without any reservations.
Until Tomorrow ...
Yes, as far as I’m concerned, I do have and am in an ongoing relationship! But recently a statement was made that got me thinking and quite honestly I’m not sure. At one time I felt confident. Today, well, lets just say I have reservations.
Its been almost three years we entered each others lives … two of which have been serious. But a while back it was requested that our relationship “return to the way it used to be”. Well, it certainly feels as though it has. As a matter of fact, it feels like it has returned to almost post-relationship. Needless to say, a little unsettling!
Don't get me wrong, I'm still very committed to the relationship? You bet ya! I believe in my buddy. He has proven his worth in ways I never expected or imagined. He has been there when others haven’t. He’s my Buddy, my Friend, my Brother. Therefore, yes!, I am happy he’s a part of my life and I his.
In light of all I’ve stated in my May 18th post, yes, I sometimes feel that my life is empty, thus the feelings of loneliness which really isn't all that uncommon in any relationship. Nonetheless, it's all good! I'm pretty certain that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be and the man in my life is exactly who he's supposed to be. God places people in our lives for a reason. ... my Buddy has been a Godsend. Therefore, yes, I’m staying put because he means that much to me. I love the man pure and simple, and without any reservations.
Until Tomorrow ...
Honestly, I believe that you need to smell the coffee and follow your feelings. He obviousely cares little about you, even less about the relationship. Nonetheless, I'm impressed at your willingness to love him, as well as put up with his none comittial attitude.
ReplyDeleteIf it was me, by now I'd have kicked him to the curve and be brushing his dust off the bottom of my shoes. Life's to short to put up with bullshit! You're either in or out. None of this well maybe untill something better comes along kind of thinking or friends with benefits sort of interaction, which I think is all you are to him.
Hey, put your energy into someone who cares and stop waisting your time with him. If he gives little to no attention to your relationship then you've got to know that there's more going on than meets the eye. Like they say, love is blind. Don't be stupid. Take the blinders off!
ReplyDeleteWhy are you his puppet? Take his hand out of your ass and stand up to this guy. Love is a mutual thing. Obviously, he has his own agenda and you're nothing more than an afterthought. Cut the strings and allow yourself to find real happiness because you're sure not going to find it with him.
ReplyDeleteI have one question. Even though you make no mention of any physical abuse, you are exhibiting behavior that is equal to someone who is. It appears that he is abusing you emotionally. Thus my question is this, is the hold he has on you emotionally worth being unhappy and empty?
ReplyDeleteTo those three above, why is it that the first judgment you pass is for someone to leave a relationship? People and emotions are not objects. You get rid of your couch. You don't get rid of people, specially those you love. This throw-a-way mentality, though fashionable by today's standards, is wrong.
ReplyDeleteHaveing seriouse questions about one's relationship is healthy. Every now and then one should evaluate where they are and if changes are required then the relationship must adjust. If not, life is good.
My point is this, if this person is happy, yet questions the wellness of his relationship, instead of suggesting that he toss his friend, why not support and suggest how he might find answers to why he may be feeling the way he does?
Obviousely, this man is committed to his relationship and loves deeply. If only there were more like him maybe relationships would be healthier and people would stay together more often than not.
Might I suggest to this blog owner, talk it over with your friend. It doesn't hurt to every now and then check in to see if the relationship is on the same page. Once this is done and if changes are necessary then adjust. More often than not, you will find that there is really nothing to worry about.
Good luck!