Last evening I had a little get together. A few of my friends and acquaintances were able to come together and just socialized. Its been a while since we’ve all gotten together. Needless to say, it was fun and enlightening.
Personally as well as economically some of them have gone through some hard times. Other's are back in school or returning this summer and fall. Yet other's have undergone a career changes just to survive this current economic down turn ... the hospitality industry isn't like it use to be! Yes, life has touched each of us in very different ways. Nonetheless, we're all survivors and this is what keeps our interaction and association tight.
Of course, at any get together there will always be some chit chat about life here in Myrtle Beach. And it's amazing what you hear and learn about the going on’s here in this small metropolis by the sea.
Myrtle Beach is a small, yet growing city, and within its boarders word travels. It’s just the nature of the beast here. Yes, sometimes you have to sort through and filter what is being said, but in this particular circle of friends and acquaintances, I can confidently say that what is said can be trusted … I give the trust scale a 95%. This group pulls no punches! B.S. is not a part of their lives. Unlike many of my past so called "friends", I can depend on this group of people. Therefore, the conversations and the insight they provided was really interesting, particularly when it came to the subject of relationships.
In thinking through the conversations of the evening, I’ve come to the conclusion that in most circles monogamy is not a sought after attribute. And to wish for such a relationship you are considered odd and out of touch, as well as limiting your chances of ever finding that one special someone.
Honestly, it saddens me that most will never have that one special someone in their life that doesn't have an open dance card. Multiple partners, open relationships, and friends with benefits is today's in thing and most sought after by the majority of those seeking companionship! Scary! My how the world of relationships have changed!
As for all of us being able to get together again soon, with the summer tourist season upon us, we probably won’t have the time until next fall.
Personally as well as economically some of them have gone through some hard times. Other's are back in school or returning this summer and fall. Yet other's have undergone a career changes just to survive this current economic down turn ... the hospitality industry isn't like it use to be! Yes, life has touched each of us in very different ways. Nonetheless, we're all survivors and this is what keeps our interaction and association tight.
Of course, at any get together there will always be some chit chat about life here in Myrtle Beach. And it's amazing what you hear and learn about the going on’s here in this small metropolis by the sea.
Myrtle Beach is a small, yet growing city, and within its boarders word travels. It’s just the nature of the beast here. Yes, sometimes you have to sort through and filter what is being said, but in this particular circle of friends and acquaintances, I can confidently say that what is said can be trusted … I give the trust scale a 95%. This group pulls no punches! B.S. is not a part of their lives. Unlike many of my past so called "friends", I can depend on this group of people. Therefore, the conversations and the insight they provided was really interesting, particularly when it came to the subject of relationships.
In thinking through the conversations of the evening, I’ve come to the conclusion that in most circles monogamy is not a sought after attribute. And to wish for such a relationship you are considered odd and out of touch, as well as limiting your chances of ever finding that one special someone.
Honestly, it saddens me that most will never have that one special someone in their life that doesn't have an open dance card. Multiple partners, open relationships, and friends with benefits is today's in thing and most sought after by the majority of those seeking companionship! Scary! My how the world of relationships have changed!
As for all of us being able to get together again soon, with the summer tourist season upon us, we probably won’t have the time until next fall.
I have to agree with you on the fact that now days people are not monogamous. They may tell you they are, but in reality it is not the case. Whether you are gay or straight, a free for all spirit is ramped in our society and will only get worse to where relationships will be nothing more than a fling in the night. No wonder diseases like AIDS is now a threat to our social well-being. Individuals are out for nothing more than personal sexual satisfaction, caring less about anyone other than themselves.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I used to date an individual who swore on a stack of bibles that he was faithful. He should burn in hell for being dishonest, not only to himself, but to me as well. Since, I have remained single since now days you simply cannot trust anyone's sexual behavior.
ReplyDeleteI live in Myrtle Beach and know all to well that 99% of individuals who are in some kind of a relationship or another are not faithful to their partners. Myrtle Beach is a whore house on wheels, plain and simple.
ReplyDeleteMyrtle Beach is the worst place to try and find a friend, let alone a partner. There is no such thing a loyalty and to expect someone to be monogamous, good luck! Myrtle Beach is nothing but a sex fest and finding a partner in this kind of atmosphere, specially one who will be faithful is HIGHLY unlikely.
ReplyDeleteIts bad enough that the gay community here in Myrtle Beach has issues with monogamy. But what really blows my mind are married guys -- yeah, I'm talking about you bi sexuals. You guys are nothing but freaks praying on gays because you can't find what you need at home. How sad is this? Pretty!
ReplyDeleteI look at monogamy like this. The pasture is always greener on the other side of the fence. Therefore, why not indulge and find what makes me the happiest. I tell you what, Myrtle Beach is full of those who are like me so the hell with monogamy when there are many willing individuals who enjoy being promiscuous and cheat on their partners.
ReplyDeleteMonogamy? What the hell is that? Life's to short to get all tied down with one person.
ReplyDeleteHey Buddy!
ReplyDeleteThought your relationship was solid? Has there been a change or am I just reading into what you posted?
Hey Philip, this is Ryan.
ReplyDeleteIt has been a while, but I want you to know that I have been silently following your blog from day one. Great job! As a matter of fact, I like your blog better now than when you first began bloging.
Listen Philip, I know that you have had it rough since you left Tennessee. I only wished that you had stayed because I knew without a doubt that the feelings we had for each other were genuine. But I knew that your ties to Myrtle Beach meant a great deal to you and so I could only wish you luck during our last dinner together. I now regret my decision. The day you drove away I realized that I had lost what I knew would have been good for me -- you!
Philip my friend, stay true to yourself. You will find that one person to whom you can completely give of yourself and never worry. I know this to be true, because I know you. You are a good man with a big heart and one day someone will realize this of you and take you into their life completely. Not like it has been, but completely and never let you go as I had done. I hope that you will forgive me?
In closing, I think of you often and do miss the good times we spent together. I even miss your crazy sister. And if ever back this way, please let me know -- my home is always open to you ok?
Take care my friend,
Ryan
If anyone can't keep their man happy and satisfied at home then what is the point in a monogamous relationship. My personal feelings is that monogamy is overrated and anyone that would expect such from anyone is crazy.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness! To read some of the posts on here it totally scares me to think that some feel it's okay to sleep around at will. No wonder the spread of STD's, HIV, and have you heard of the new pending pandemic--swine flue?, is on the rise.
ReplyDeleteIt's horrible that guys think with their smaller head rather than with the one that sits above their neckline. Being faithful to one person in a committed relationship is one of the most beautiful aspects of being in love and I would not trade this commitment for anything.
My partner and I have been together for twenty years and life together has been the most rewarding that I could ever wish for. And for twenty years, monogamy is what has held our commitment together.
Michael,
Fairbanks, Alaska