A Restless Heart
Being placed on the back burner leaves an empty pit in your emotions. The end to long personal conversations and incidental chats causes you to feel unimportant. Not feeling needed or that you matter is significantly unnerving. Being told you are no longer desirable is crushing. Spending less time together causes loneliness to overtake your heart and feeds doubt as to your worthiness. Being grilled about how much your friends know about you for fear of being over exposed is daunting.
What further magnifies these seemingly noticeable changes is when you inquire about them and the response is with irrelevancy and disingenuousness. Though they are saying no, you know in your heart of hearts the real answer is yes.
There is no question that people and their emotions change. This is part of the natural process of life. However, when the change becomes more of a digression is the relationship at this point doomed? Is there any part of the relationship that is salvageable? Or do you cut your looses and simply walk away because you realize that what once was may not have been at all, is not at all, and never will be?
Perhaps the warning signs were there all along and the choice was to ignore them. Lets say the clues included not being able to directly communicate with them. If there is any sort of communication it is solely done through texting or instant messaging. Being informed that you are only a “friend” when needed. Told that your social skills are an embarrassment to them and if the behavior continues there will be no further public association. Alluding the fact that your personal emotions are inconsequential and your feelings are not that important. That how you handle life is contrary to how they believe, thus you are left feeling totally inadequate. That you have an idol mind. Are these not significant signs enough that maybe you should put the breaks on attempting to pursue a meaningful relationship of any kind. Is this what love does to one another? Or are these nothing more than tools to keep you at arms length … perhaps even to push you away?
In light of the appearance of things, perhaps it can be said that from this point forward believing and trusting that individual becomes painfully difficult, because in the back of your mind you will always question as to where you truly stand in their life and always be waiting for the next phase of disconnect.
In today’s world, with many relationships, friendships and acquaintances there is no sense of loyalty and honesty. Commitment to each other is fickle and out dated … characterized as unreasonable expectations. If you don’t benefit their needs, desires, and ideals you are insignificant and distanced. The “it’s all about me” and not about you mentality is what guides the terms of your interaction and socialization.
It’s a cold world out there and often the only way to survive is to become as cold and as unforgiving. To not care about the other, but only for yourself. To use someone’s emotions until it’s no longer feasible to do so. But then again, how would you explain these actions on judgment day which will determine your eternal destiny? Perhaps it is better to error on the side of love than to loose your dignity and self-respect, and in the end your soul.
Being placed on the back burner leaves an empty pit in your emotions. The end to long personal conversations and incidental chats causes you to feel unimportant. Not feeling needed or that you matter is significantly unnerving. Being told you are no longer desirable is crushing. Spending less time together causes loneliness to overtake your heart and feeds doubt as to your worthiness. Being grilled about how much your friends know about you for fear of being over exposed is daunting.
What further magnifies these seemingly noticeable changes is when you inquire about them and the response is with irrelevancy and disingenuousness. Though they are saying no, you know in your heart of hearts the real answer is yes.
There is no question that people and their emotions change. This is part of the natural process of life. However, when the change becomes more of a digression is the relationship at this point doomed? Is there any part of the relationship that is salvageable? Or do you cut your looses and simply walk away because you realize that what once was may not have been at all, is not at all, and never will be?
Perhaps the warning signs were there all along and the choice was to ignore them. Lets say the clues included not being able to directly communicate with them. If there is any sort of communication it is solely done through texting or instant messaging. Being informed that you are only a “friend” when needed. Told that your social skills are an embarrassment to them and if the behavior continues there will be no further public association. Alluding the fact that your personal emotions are inconsequential and your feelings are not that important. That how you handle life is contrary to how they believe, thus you are left feeling totally inadequate. That you have an idol mind. Are these not significant signs enough that maybe you should put the breaks on attempting to pursue a meaningful relationship of any kind. Is this what love does to one another? Or are these nothing more than tools to keep you at arms length … perhaps even to push you away?
In light of the appearance of things, perhaps it can be said that from this point forward believing and trusting that individual becomes painfully difficult, because in the back of your mind you will always question as to where you truly stand in their life and always be waiting for the next phase of disconnect.
In today’s world, with many relationships, friendships and acquaintances there is no sense of loyalty and honesty. Commitment to each other is fickle and out dated … characterized as unreasonable expectations. If you don’t benefit their needs, desires, and ideals you are insignificant and distanced. The “it’s all about me” and not about you mentality is what guides the terms of your interaction and socialization.
It’s a cold world out there and often the only way to survive is to become as cold and as unforgiving. To not care about the other, but only for yourself. To use someone’s emotions until it’s no longer feasible to do so. But then again, how would you explain these actions on judgment day which will determine your eternal destiny? Perhaps it is better to error on the side of love than to loose your dignity and self-respect, and in the end your soul.
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