[Buddy], please accept this email as one friend to another.
Over the last several months you have ever so slowly become a total stranger. The individual I know today is not the person I came to know and love. Not only have you changed, but now you are verbally and emotionally becoming toxic which concerns me.
I know you don't want to discuss or talk about this with me. At one time you would have, but you no longer share with me like you once did. With this said; what I hear you saying is that you could care less about how I think or feel about you, and if I don't like it then I can simply take a hike for all you care.
[Buddy], what happened between the time you left and came home that caused you to become so disgruntled, specifically towards me? This 180 degree change in you is mind blowing and I am just totally baffled at your uncaring attitude.
What is interesting is that emotionally you are becoming what I am changing. For a lack of a better term, I would almost say that you are suffering from [what I term] Stacy Syndrome. At one time I was where you are today ... I could care less what people thought about me, cared less about what and how I said or did things, etc. At one time I use to not care about anyone but myself. However, because of you and your influence it caused me to change. And thanks to therapy it has literally turned my life around to where I now genuinely care, not only about myself, but about others. I am so at peace with whom I'm becoming, cause the individual that I was; angry, hateful, selfish, and spiteful was killing me spiritual and emotionally. Anyway, I truly hope you don't travel down [the same] path cause it's a lonely path to walk when you stop caring about other people's feelings and their personhood.
Yes, you should always take care of yourself first ... that's a given! But to stop caring about other people's feelings, now that's a dangerous slope and the fall you might experience just might be equally as dangerous for your soul.
The bible states; "do unto other's as you would have them do unto you". I know that I don't have to explain this to you. Nonetheless, as you have thankfully ground into my brain; "for every action there's a reaction, even a consequence". [Buddy], please, for God's sake don't become an individual who doesn't care about someone's emotions or feelings. Needless to say, it isn't a pretty place to be and it's a very lonely place to be! And as for the quote from the good book, always remember, what goes around does come around.
In closing, [Buddy], I'm your friend. I want to remain your friend. And, yes, I love you very much. You're like a brother to me. But the stranger you are becoming is making it difficult to relate to you in a positive light and it would pain me to think that we would have to give up a wonderful friendship simply because you don't care about my feelings which, like it or not, is part of my person-hood.
Yes, sometimes my feelings may not coincide with how you feel or believe. Likewise, the same in return from you. Nonetheless, between friends, which you and I are, we should be beyond this stage of becoming so upset over how we express them as long as it isn't hateful, hurtful or painful causing permanent emotional damage. Therefore, if you would like, please explain what caused you to become so harsh with me?
Like I've stated, if I know what's going on then I can understand it and deal with it ... I'm not an unreasonable man. And last but not least, [Buddy], if I caused you to feel this way towards me then I ask for your forgiveness cause if I have wronged you in any way and not correct it then I can't expect God to bless me. Therefore, I'm very sorry if I have done something to cause you to be so cold and seemingly uncaring towards me.
I don't expect a reply to this, nonetheless I just wanted to share my thoughts with ya.
Love ya buddy!
Philip
Over the last several months you have ever so slowly become a total stranger. The individual I know today is not the person I came to know and love. Not only have you changed, but now you are verbally and emotionally becoming toxic which concerns me.
I know you don't want to discuss or talk about this with me. At one time you would have, but you no longer share with me like you once did. With this said; what I hear you saying is that you could care less about how I think or feel about you, and if I don't like it then I can simply take a hike for all you care.
[Buddy], what happened between the time you left and came home that caused you to become so disgruntled, specifically towards me? This 180 degree change in you is mind blowing and I am just totally baffled at your uncaring attitude.
What is interesting is that emotionally you are becoming what I am changing. For a lack of a better term, I would almost say that you are suffering from [what I term] Stacy Syndrome. At one time I was where you are today ... I could care less what people thought about me, cared less about what and how I said or did things, etc. At one time I use to not care about anyone but myself. However, because of you and your influence it caused me to change. And thanks to therapy it has literally turned my life around to where I now genuinely care, not only about myself, but about others. I am so at peace with whom I'm becoming, cause the individual that I was; angry, hateful, selfish, and spiteful was killing me spiritual and emotionally. Anyway, I truly hope you don't travel down [the same] path cause it's a lonely path to walk when you stop caring about other people's feelings and their personhood.
Yes, you should always take care of yourself first ... that's a given! But to stop caring about other people's feelings, now that's a dangerous slope and the fall you might experience just might be equally as dangerous for your soul.
The bible states; "do unto other's as you would have them do unto you". I know that I don't have to explain this to you. Nonetheless, as you have thankfully ground into my brain; "for every action there's a reaction, even a consequence". [Buddy], please, for God's sake don't become an individual who doesn't care about someone's emotions or feelings. Needless to say, it isn't a pretty place to be and it's a very lonely place to be! And as for the quote from the good book, always remember, what goes around does come around.
In closing, [Buddy], I'm your friend. I want to remain your friend. And, yes, I love you very much. You're like a brother to me. But the stranger you are becoming is making it difficult to relate to you in a positive light and it would pain me to think that we would have to give up a wonderful friendship simply because you don't care about my feelings which, like it or not, is part of my person-hood.
Yes, sometimes my feelings may not coincide with how you feel or believe. Likewise, the same in return from you. Nonetheless, between friends, which you and I are, we should be beyond this stage of becoming so upset over how we express them as long as it isn't hateful, hurtful or painful causing permanent emotional damage. Therefore, if you would like, please explain what caused you to become so harsh with me?
Like I've stated, if I know what's going on then I can understand it and deal with it ... I'm not an unreasonable man. And last but not least, [Buddy], if I caused you to feel this way towards me then I ask for your forgiveness cause if I have wronged you in any way and not correct it then I can't expect God to bless me. Therefore, I'm very sorry if I have done something to cause you to be so cold and seemingly uncaring towards me.
I don't expect a reply to this, nonetheless I just wanted to share my thoughts with ya.
Love ya buddy!
Philip
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Email Dated 06/05/11
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