It is said; “Once a cheater, always a cheater”. Therefore, can you ever fully trust someone who cheats?
I was lucky to have a twenty-seven year relationship in which cheating was never a question or issue. We trusted each other implicitly. But following my partner’s passing and entering the dating scene, I have to say that it was a jaw dropping, eye opening experience.
When breaking down the types of guys I've talked to, approximately 70% were married, had children and a career. 20% were partnered. 8% were single who ironically were looking for married men. 2% of guys were actually single. Cheating permeated every aspect of the dating world. You simply couldn’t avoid it!
Cheating is the new morality. It’s the norm! And those who cheat think nothing of it. Example. If your married, sleeping with a guy isn’t considered cheating. However, if you sleep with another woman, now that’s considered cheating and visa versa. If your partnered, it’s a “given”. You love the one you sleep with, but you screw the one you have sex with. Most of the remainder seek out those who are married or partnered cause in this atmosphere there’s no commitment. Believe me, it can get complicated. Nonetheless, these are the basic rules.
Dating someone who’s attached is the most frustrating experience one can have. Majority of the time you are alone. You never fully share in each other’s lives. There are no holidays or birthday’s together. When you’re sick or have an emergency they will not be there. Having someone to confide in is virtually nonexistent. Phoning, texting and emailing are only allowed if they initiate it. Publicly you have to be overly cautious as to where you go … in many situations you cannot go out in public. Planning is out of the question, therefore everything involving each other is on the spur of the moment. More than likely, they are sleeping with someone else. And the list goes on. Basically put, being involved with a partnered individual is a very dark and lonely existence … truly a dead end relationship in every aspect. Now, some deal well with this sort of existence. But as for me, well, life’s to short to be alone and lonely.
As for me, if I ever caught someone I’m sexually involved with cheating, honey let me tell you, that would be the end of whatever relationship there was. Their ass would be kicked right to the curb and I would walk away from that relationship with no emotions or remorse. As fare as I’m concerned, when in a committed relationship, specially if it be a sexually monogamous relationship, cheating is inexcusable and unacceptable. If I’m not all that for them then kiss my ass good-by then do whatever you choose. But meanwhile I ain’t sleeping with him and all of them others. Oh, hell no!
So, can you trust a cheater. Basically no! Cheating is nothing more than a betrayal of trust, much like stealing and lying, cheating is no different. Once someone steals from and/or lies to you, you can never fully trust them again. Cheating is no different. Can someone change? Yes! Can you forgive? Yes! Can you forget? No! That’s how deeply a cheater can affect the soul of their partner. Cheating, stealing and lying are all betrayals that the human soul can never fully forget … overcome, yes, but never forget. Therefore, the best policy in any given relationship is pure and unadulterated honesty. Being true to someone you love or care about is the highest respect one can pay to their partner. Betraying them is nothing more than a death sentence from which recovery is next to impossible.
I was lucky to have a twenty-seven year relationship in which cheating was never a question or issue. We trusted each other implicitly. But following my partner’s passing and entering the dating scene, I have to say that it was a jaw dropping, eye opening experience.
When breaking down the types of guys I've talked to, approximately 70% were married, had children and a career. 20% were partnered. 8% were single who ironically were looking for married men. 2% of guys were actually single. Cheating permeated every aspect of the dating world. You simply couldn’t avoid it!
Cheating is the new morality. It’s the norm! And those who cheat think nothing of it. Example. If your married, sleeping with a guy isn’t considered cheating. However, if you sleep with another woman, now that’s considered cheating and visa versa. If your partnered, it’s a “given”. You love the one you sleep with, but you screw the one you have sex with. Most of the remainder seek out those who are married or partnered cause in this atmosphere there’s no commitment. Believe me, it can get complicated. Nonetheless, these are the basic rules.
Dating someone who’s attached is the most frustrating experience one can have. Majority of the time you are alone. You never fully share in each other’s lives. There are no holidays or birthday’s together. When you’re sick or have an emergency they will not be there. Having someone to confide in is virtually nonexistent. Phoning, texting and emailing are only allowed if they initiate it. Publicly you have to be overly cautious as to where you go … in many situations you cannot go out in public. Planning is out of the question, therefore everything involving each other is on the spur of the moment. More than likely, they are sleeping with someone else. And the list goes on. Basically put, being involved with a partnered individual is a very dark and lonely existence … truly a dead end relationship in every aspect. Now, some deal well with this sort of existence. But as for me, well, life’s to short to be alone and lonely.
As for me, if I ever caught someone I’m sexually involved with cheating, honey let me tell you, that would be the end of whatever relationship there was. Their ass would be kicked right to the curb and I would walk away from that relationship with no emotions or remorse. As fare as I’m concerned, when in a committed relationship, specially if it be a sexually monogamous relationship, cheating is inexcusable and unacceptable. If I’m not all that for them then kiss my ass good-by then do whatever you choose. But meanwhile I ain’t sleeping with him and all of them others. Oh, hell no!
So, can you trust a cheater. Basically no! Cheating is nothing more than a betrayal of trust, much like stealing and lying, cheating is no different. Once someone steals from and/or lies to you, you can never fully trust them again. Cheating is no different. Can someone change? Yes! Can you forgive? Yes! Can you forget? No! That’s how deeply a cheater can affect the soul of their partner. Cheating, stealing and lying are all betrayals that the human soul can never fully forget … overcome, yes, but never forget. Therefore, the best policy in any given relationship is pure and unadulterated honesty. Being true to someone you love or care about is the highest respect one can pay to their partner. Betraying them is nothing more than a death sentence from which recovery is next to impossible.
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